Last week, I wrote to you about the privilege of attending
Dr. Nancy Snyderman‘s presentation on women’s health. The following is what I didn’t share. Side note: Seeing as I’m certain to write more than one Friday Quickie illustrating my moments of hypocrisy, I thought I’d just dive right in and tittle this as such. Enjoy!
Joining my husband’s work trip brought me to San Antonio. He had work commitments. I had nothing. As a mother, business owner and household manager, “doing nothing” is glorious and rare.
Anywho, I was headed on a trip to do nothing. I was excited. My first day was 7:30am to 7:00pm of commuting. This would be a nightmare for some, but hours of alone time to read, listen to podcasts and eat food I did not prepare was again, glorious. My only responsibility was paying attention to my flights – turns out, I can do that. The second day offered more time to sit by the pool, enjoy the lazy river and small talk with other conference attendees. I actually took a Pilates class. A fitness class may not be everyone’s idea of relaxation but for me – glorious.
At this point, I have done well. I have held strong in my agenda to relax and recharge by doing nothing. My commitment to take care of myself however, takes a turn.
A few wives at the conference kept encouraging me to attend the “spouses event,” (aforementioned talk by by Dr. Nancy Snyderman
.) I was initially good about simply stating,”no thank you” but started to waiver. I rationalized, “Well, it is a great opportunity to hear a speaker that I normally would not have a chance to hear.” “I might gain some insight relating to the needs of my growing clients.” “The plane ride later today will be relaxing.” Blah, blah, blah.
So, I put on make up, dressed in non-pool attire and made pleasant small talk at a fancy breakfast until our speaker’s presentation. I mentioned last week that I attended the talk. I didn’t mention that I almost got up and left. Miles from home with no responsibilities and 90 degree, sunny weather, I guilted myself into getting back on the train – learning, working, doing what it seemed I “should” be doing – attending the talk. Instead of what I had agreed to do – NOTHING. So, you can imagine the irony when Dr. Snyderman’s key piece of advice was to reduce our stress levels and take breaks. I quietly shook my head and thought, “I should be at the pool.”
I constantly encourage clients to put themselves on their “to do” list, to make time for breaks and relaxation. And to hold firm to those commitments. Hence, the hypocrisy.
The good news is – I’m a quick study. Fixing my falter was easy. Instead of sightseeing down town after the talk (I’ll catch ya next time, San Antonio), I insisted on laying by the pool until my flight. It was wonderful! Best decision I’ve made in weeks.
I hope that next time you are wavering about taking some time for yourself you commit to being your own advocate, you grab your towel and sunblock and head to the metaphorical pool. Taking care of ourselves by taking a break is so important!
We can’t always head to the pool. What do you do to recharge your batteries? Let’s share our good ideas: post your favorite “recharge” on our blog or facebook page.