As you decide plans for the fresh year ahead, I’d like to toss a small game changer your way: relentless candor.
Our inner dialogue might go something like this:
“I really need to get in shape.”
Our resolution might be a two part:
- join gym
- exercise everyday
Outside of this change being too drastic, there is a fundamental problem. The desire is too vague. The guts of the goal haven’t been exploited. And that’s a shame.
Solution: try “Why?” and travel to a better resolution.
For example: “I really need to get in shape.”
OK, why?
“Because I don’t feel healthy.”
Why is that a problem?
“Because I feel tired all the time.”
Why is that a problem?
“My work schedule comes first and then I don’t have much energy left for personal priorities.”
Why does that matter?
“Because I’d like to start dating again and that takes time and energy.”
Anything else?
“I think I would feel sexier and more confident if I was in better shape.”
OK, why does that matter?
“Because being as unhealthy as I am right now, doesn’t feel like I’m myself anymore.”
And there we have it. More emotional and specific reasons for being healthier. Be honest and forthcoming. Don’t stop until you feel you have hit something powerful. Your answers and reasoning might be quite different of course but the idea is the same. This process involves “relentless candor.” It may not be pretty or easy, but if it is your truth it will work more effectively than something generic. Give yourself a few minutes and get to know your why. It will make all the difference.
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