When did living healthfully become such a chore? I say, bring the fun back! (That is the f-word I was referring to, of course.) When we were kids we could make a game out of anything. Tap into that silliness and free-spirit again and let your body move.
I’m inspired by my brothers and husband who last Sunday grabbed a few Frisbees and started playing a rather intense game of catch. This escalated into an impromptu photo shoot of unbelievable shots (uh-um). We were laughing, moving and having a fantastic time acting like goof balls. Let’s bring the f-word back to being fit and have a good time while doing it.
Why am I subjecting all of you to pictures of my suspiciously ordinary closet? Is the organization system revolutionary? Hardly. Are the clothes fabulous? A few – but nothing worthy of your time. Is there something about it that makes me healthier? Nope.
The most distinguishing factor to my closet? Everything fits. And, I do mean everything. Feel free to curse such a fortunate scenario (at another time in my life, I would.) But that most certainly is not the reason I’m sharing this detail. I’m convinced this scenario can help you. And as we’ve seen before, if there’s an opportunity to help, I’ll exploit it.
We are flooded with health and longevity related reasons to exercise. However, the most pressing and impactful reasons to be fit are not always in the research. Trusting clients have shared some candid goals with me over the years:
- “I’m tired of dressing so strategically.” (concealing “problem” areas trumping fashion preference)
- “I want everything in my closet to fit. It doesn’t.”
- “I’m tired of looking so differently from how I see myself.”
- “I only wear jeans with long tops.”
- “I wish my size didn’t prevent me from shopping at [insert favorite store here].”
- “I hate that I waste 20 minutes every morning getting dressed because of my weight.”
- “I dislike having three wardrobes: each a different size.”
So, if you are looking for motivation to be healthier and more active, open your closet doors: their might be an untapped well of fashion fun, morning time savings, guilt elimination and self expression waiting for your healthy living habit. Need help? Drop me a line. It would be my pleasure. email@example.com
Not the size you’d like to be?
- Dress and shop the size you are. You are beautiful and worthy of feeling contemporary right now. Depriving yourself until you hit your goal weight rarely works.
- Plan investment pieces for when you have kept a new change for approximately 3 months.
- Tailor your clothes. Many of my clients lose weight in the healthy living process. A good tailor can do wonders for ensuring a great fit and lengthening the life of your clothes as your body changes.
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If a close friend asked for your help, would you? If so, stay with me.
One brilliant client shared the key to her healthy-living decision making. Apparently, she learned, years ago, that the same part of your brain that is empathetic for someone else, sees your future self (tomorrow morning or 2 years from now) with the same level of compassion.
Can you see where I’m headed? Most of us find helping someone else pretty easy. We see the need, rearrange and make it happen. But fewer of us extend the same care with ourselves. (I hope all of you are nodding.) Well, what if you thought of your future self a little more often…
- As you consider eating the pastry in the break-room, think of your future self trying on clothes for your August vacation
- As you push off making a doctor’s appointment, think of your future self facing a tougher diagnosis 12 months from now
- As you consider delaying your bedtime, think of your future self in the morning as the alarm goes off
- As you delay adding strength training, think of your future self’s concerns about bone density and fractures as an elderly woman
The time is now and the motivator is empathy for your future self. I’ll use just about anything to reach you, patriotism, the words of others, humor, my moments of hypocrisy. In this case, I ask you to capitalize on your inherent compassion and throw a little toward your future self.
today to get started.
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As you decide plans for the fresh year ahead, I’d like to toss a small game changer your way: relentless candor.
Our inner dialogue might go something like this:
“I really need to get in shape.”
Our resolution might be a two part:
- join gym
- exercise everyday
Outside of this change being too drastic, there is a fundamental problem. The desire is too vague. The guts of the goal haven’t been exploited. And that’s a shame.
Solution: try “Why?” and travel to a better resolution.
For example: “I really need to get in shape.”
“Because I don’t feel healthy.”
Why is that a problem?
“Because I feel tired all the time.”
Why is that a problem?
“My work schedule comes first and then I don’t have much energy left for personal priorities.”
Why does that matter?
“Because I’d like to start dating again and that takes time and energy.”
“I think I would feel sexier and more confident if I was in better shape.”
OK, why does that matter?
“Because being as unhealthy as I am right now, doesn’t feel like I’m myself anymore.”
And there we have it. More emotional and specific reasons for being healthier. Be honest and forthcoming. Don’t stop until you feel you have hit something powerful. Your answers and reasoning might be quite different of course but the idea is the same. This process involves “relentless candor.” It may not be pretty or easy, but if it is your truth it will work more effectively than something generic. Give yourself a few minutes and get to know your why. It will make all the difference.
Email if you would like my help firstname.lastname@example.org. I’d be delighted to have you join us for Strength In Numbers.
Here is a hilarious version of my “Pick Your Party” post from my very talented brother-in-law. Enjoy!
“In the next twelve days there are a lot of opportunities to celebrate. And celebrating is good. Indulging is even better.
I encourage you to party. Choose one event for indulging each and every day of the holiday season. Because, it is not one holiday dinner that causes holiday happiness. It is the daily treats, late nights, changes in schedules, parade of parties and increase in alcohol consumption that leave us feeling at peace with the world. Why choose just one celebration when you can choose all of them?
Don’t deprive yourself: More drinks! More indulgent food! Longer nights! You can always hire a personal trainer to get back in shape when this holiday season is over. And in my book, that is a plan worth considering.”